“See this man, he still dey talk”😒
In the past few weeks, as I read the allegations of sexual harassment and abuse committed by Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein, I noticed no black actress came forward to place any of the same charges on him. I even read an article about how Sophie Okonedo didn’t get a part because he wasn’t sure if she was ‘sex worthy’😬. After reading that article, I realised that some closed doors are blessings in disguise.
Then Lupita Nyong’o came out and wrote about her own escape from Harvey Weinstein. Reading her op-ed was like watching a horror movie unfold; you knew something bad was going to happen to her. 😔
For the majority of the other non-black women who came out, Harvey Weinstein remained silent, not disputing any individual case. However, for Lupita Nyong’o’s case, he felt the need to speak up and say that he remembers the situation differently. And that she invited him to her play.
“See this man, he still dey talk”😒
What was Harvey Weinstein’s purpose in adding that last part: that she invited to him to her play? Based on my knowledge of racism, I believe it was to insinuate that Lupita came on to him. Why did Harvey Weinstein pick Lupita’s account as one of the only ones to specifically refute? Once again based on my knowledge of racism, I believe it is because he was ashamed that people would know that he finds black women attractive.
In fighting against racism whether it is internalized or the external one, there are a few things you need to know:
-Black women are beautiful.
-People (especially men) know black women are beautiful.
-Some men (not all) are ashamed of showing their attraction to black women (especially the darker skinned ones) because the system of anti-black racism teaches that black people are inferior and of lower status.
-The system of racism has hypersexualized and asexualized the black woman; either she’s a mammy or a ‘sex beast’.
Unfortunately, some black women truly buy into the notion that black women are unattractive and of lower status, not knowing that the very system that is telling us this, secretly desires the black woman and her features. That is why when some women of lighter skin colours have features that are common place among black women (like our full lips and butts), they are celebrated.
So that is why despite all the allegations that have been brought against Harvey Weinstein, I believe he felt more shame that people found out he was attracted to a very beautiful dark black actress, than he did the sexual harassment allegations that have been brought against him. So he had to refute Lupita Nyong’o’s claim.
“See this man, why he no dey close his mouth?” 😷
One way to fight implicit racism as a dark skinned black woman is to know that you are beautiful and of high status, not because men are proud to stand next to you, but because God (who has the highest status of all) loves you and actually sent His Son to die for you (nothing says something has value more than someone actually giving their life for it). For those who feel that it is shameful to have a dark skinned black women standing next to someone as their girlfriend or wife should ask themselves why. Why is it shameful? Is being dark a shameful thing? If you’re black, isn’t it hypocritical to be fighting against a system that says black people are inferior, but at the same time to be engaging in racism towards darker skinned black women. Remember that ultimately if you think that darker skinned women are unattractive because they are dark, then you’re saying that you as a black person are also unattractive because you are darker than white people and other non-black people.
Don’t forget to check out my book Dealing with Your Implicit Racism (For black people and anti-racism activists)
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